There are so many advise on what to prepare for the Betrothal online and offline which really makes our head spin…

One of the list can be found here: 各籍贯结婚过大礼所需的用品.

The list is sooooo long!

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过大礼

• 礼饼
• 2只鸡
• 2瓶洋酒
• 2对龙凤烛,
• 2套龙凤香,
• 19粒柑,
• 19粒苹果,
• 1 块红布(男方必须比女方的长，在婚礼当天挂在门楣，象征鸿运当头),
• 1大盘发糕,
• 一些蔬菜如生菜(象征生生不息),
• 芹菜(象征克勤克俭)
• 青葱(象征聪明才智)
• 煎堆
• 及一块给准新娘未娶的兄长做裤子的布料(象征财富绵绵).

回礼

• 一些礼饼,
• 18个发糕,
• 两瓶橙汁,
• 瓜子(象征早生贵子),
• 莲子百合(象征百年好合),
• 蜜枣(象征甜甜蜜蜜), 龙眼, 茶叶,
• 8粒柑,
• 8粒苹果,
• 一并送往准新郎的家. 新娘母亲要买裤子, 裤带及皮包给女婿(象征买田买地荣华富贵).
• 退还部分的聘金, 表示女方家人乐意与男方分享.

I remember mum did mentioned about the belt so I guess this is one of the more traditional list?

Gary and I also found another list, which he add on more and end up looking something like this:

Simplified Betrothal List

In case you wonder why we “不用火猪(do not need fire boar)”, this is just a photo I took of the list before I finally teach him how to spell the words 烧猪(roast pig)… his Chinese… really as “good standard” as my English. But on the bright side, we compliment each other =)